Moms have end number of work. Look at yours, she is always busy doing something. They have end number of chores to get done. From cleaning rooms to sort holiday homework of their kids and not to forget the kitchen work. And more than being a physical work it is more of a mental load. But do dads pay equal importance to those work? Most of you will say a big NO.
Women are born with a caring and sensitive attitude. And when they turn themselves into mothers, the degree of these attitudes increase to a non-negotiable level. They become more empathetic and more attentive to the welfare of their family. It’s not that fathers don’t hold any such emotions but say, they need a push most of the times.
With time we can see this burden to manage all the family chores is single-handedly maintained by the moms, which is not right for her.
Too much of work can affect them mentally and emotionally along with physical exhaustion. This can also affect your happy relationship. So, it’s high time we put the male brigade at work. Here are some tricks which will help you in making your husband help you with the household chore and yes have no shame in taking help from husband.
Write down all the work that has to be done, even the small ones
The first and foremost step is to write down each and every work which is to be done. Starting from getting the groceries to changing sheets. Make sure you don’t miss out on anything while making the list.
It usually happens that women themselves are not aware of the quantity of work they go through every day. This makes their efforts go without being acknowledged. So it is a good idea to first make the list of all the work the house demands. Make sure to not leave even a single one.
Divide the work among yourselves
Now that you have a list with yourself you know the ample amount of work that has to been done regularly. Now sit together and divide it equally (if possible) and without being biased. Just don’t take all the hard work and give your husband the small ones. Marriage means equality and trusts me, sweety, this is not equality.
If you feel you are too soft to ask them to take difficult tasks, just divide the day. Suppose you take all the Monday chores and your husband can do all the work on Tuesday. Whatever suits you.
If you are a working woman you can divide shifts of work. You take the night shift and he can go for the morning work or vice vera.
Check whether he is free enough to work
Sometimes it is quite difficult to do household work because you are already bottled up with so much from office. This situation can be faced by your husband too and you should acknowledge it. So before filling him with work, make sure to ask them if they are free enough to work on that day.
If not then you can work on their behalf and they can repay you by working the day you are busy with office work or other stuff. That’s how a healthy marriage works too. so, take help from husband. You need to understand the situation of other people before making a chaotic scene.
When you are unwell, make him the in charge
Days can be tough. Pregnancy pain, fever, cold, periods, the list of So when you come through such occasions when you are just not in the state of work, make your husband in charge of the stuff. Such situations are ideal for them to learn and understand what you go through on a regular basis and they will get to learn new things too.
Be strict if they are not working
If they don’t do their work or extend it to an indefinite time period you need to step down and show your bossy attitude. Sometimes when you behave over sweetly this gives them an assurance that you are here to complete their work even if they don’t do it. So make sure that this misconception is out of their mind the very first day. If they are given some household work it is their duty to fulfill it, just as they do it in their office. It is very important to show your strict side if they are not completing their respective tasks. you can take help from husband but make sure they do it on time.
Don’t make fun of their work
Lastly, appreciate their work just the way you expect them to do it for you. No one is the case with your husband. So just in case, they do something wrong or their work is not up to your expectations, instead of criticizing teach them how to do it. They may be new to this household chores things so don’t be too harsh on their work. It is about having another helping hand so if they are showing efforts to help you, they are doing it right. Take help from husband and pay your regards.